Hitting publish on today’s post is a little nerve racking. Sharing these photos is even more nerve racking but when I see how far I’ve come and how confident I am now in my body I couldn’t be more proud to post these images.
For the first time in 5 maybe more years I finally feel confident about my body. I wrote this post last year all about finding body confidence. Looking back at this post and the photos I am amazed at how much I’ve changed and how much my mentality towards my body has changed. I have curves, I have cellulite and stretch marks but you know what I am beginning to love my body for what it is. I have never felt more confident in the way I look.
There has always been this little insecurity about my body worrying that I’m not thin enough, not sexy enough. I’d wear baggy clothes, never anything tight around my stomach. Hiding the ares I thought were my “problem areas.”
In the last 4 months I’ve been working out more & more and I have noticed so much change in my shape. I feel leaner, taller (if that’s possible) I feel sexier. My clothes fit me better, I’m starting to wear clothes that are a bit more figuring hugging than I would have before.
I’ve never aspired to be super skinny, I love having curves I just wanted to be in a place where I love what I see when I look in the mirror.
Also I wanted to feel so much more confident in my skin and with the way my body looks. In terms of fitness I still have a long way to go, there’s still areas I’d like to tone up & work on. But I’m shocked at how far I’ve changed in the past 4-5 months just by working out and eating healthy.
And It wasn’t just about how I looked in clothes or felt about how I looked. I used to be terrified when it came to even the prospect of getting naked in front of a guy. You want the person you’re with to find you sexy and like the way your body looks but when you don’t feel confident with yourself that can be even more intimidating. You get in your head thinking they will spot all the imperfections you see too. In truth guys are just glad your naked so either way it won’t matter to them.
Now Getting my kit off in front of a guy doesn’t seem so intimidating any more. Saying that it’s not just about what the person you’re with thinks about you. Don’t just go by their opinion. I mean of course it helps but you’ve got feel good & happy within yourself too. You have to accept and learn to love yourself as you are.
Which is why we need to stop saying things like “i’ll be happy when i lose a couple of pounds” or “I’ll feel more confident when this or that is more toned.” I will put my hands up and admit that I’ve said these things countless times. Cried over the fact that I’m not pretty enough, thin enough, wondering if someone doesn’t think I’m attractive for this reason or for that reason.
But it has to stop.
I have to stop putting myself down for superficial things like this. They say how can you love someone when you truly don’t love yourself. I think we should all strive to love ourselves more. Stop putting ourselves down. Stop looking in the mirror and hating what we see.
Start looking in the mirror and picking out the things we love about ourselves, focusing on the good instead of the bad.
Learning to love our quirks, cellulit even those pesky stretch marks. Start learning to dress to show off our amazing bodies. Start feeling confident in the way we look and really start to appreciate it too. Focus on our good and you’ll learn to love the rest in time.
Let’s face it you’ve only got one body for the rest of your life. And if you don’t love it how do you expect anyone else too. Yes getting rid of those insecurities can be so hard & it will take time. I still have so many insecurities, things that get me down, make me feel like crap when I think about them. It’s so hard not to give into those insecurities and to not let them tear you down. Learning to appreciate that we have a healthy, strong body is more important than giving in to these insecurities. It’s not going to be easy, no one said it would be but once you learn to look past them you will feel 100% better about yourself.